"I think there is great truth to this quote, and great sadness. The one that isn’t there. The one that doesn’t fit with our lifestyle. The one that can’t mesh with us. That is the other. The one that is the ideal. The one that fits our fantasies. The prince charming or cinderlla. That is the other. We have people. We have couples. We have friends. We have family. We might even have love. But we don’t have the other. And since it is the other that gives us fully do we feel at all without them? Can we truly experience love in their absence? Does it even compare? To what extant are we missing out on life? On liberty to be ourselves? …. On happiness?
Another true saying is “ignorance is bliss“. So maybe since we haven’t found our other than we don’t know what we are missing. Maybe. But what about the longing we feel inside when we have everything? What about the depression we feel when we have someone that makes us happy? That my friends, is when our hearts cry out for the other.
We have two choices. We could take a stand and live with our choices Say that what I have should be and will be good enough. We could live great, normal lives filled with love and happiness. Or, we could wait and search. Despite the fact that the search is hard, is filled with mistakes, and never fails to bring tears. Either life is hard. One feels incomplete. One is a struggle everyday to bring it together.
It is for this reason that the saying holds true — only what the other gives us is truly undeserved, and is truly given without expectation of return. That is what makes it truly “fully unto ourselves”.
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